After your baby was born, you became happy parents, deeply loving this little life. But what about your relationship? Don't worry, with a little patience and some thoughtful advice, you can rekindle the spark of love!
1. Give each other some time.
Every couple experiences immense joy and dramatic life changes when welcoming a new life. Feeling tired and lacking desire for your partner? This is perfectly normal. Your body is going through a period of hormonal changes and adjusting to the role of a new mother. Your partner may also be exhausted, both physically and mentally, because the baby hasn't slept through the night. While some couples resume intimacy within days postpartum, most wait six to twelve weeks. Experts point out that as long as the sexual hiatus doesn't exceed six months, there's no need to worry excessively. Instead of rushing back to the way things were, focus on resting, taking care of yourself, and readjusting your routines as new parents. Your feelings will gradually return, so don't worry!
2. Arrange a date for the two of you as early as possible.
The monotony of daily life isn't conducive to maintaining the spark in your relationship. Once you've settled into the new rhythm of life with your baby, it's time to break free from the routine! If parents or friends offer to help care for the baby, giving you an evening or a weekend alone together, don't hesitate, say yes immediately! No one offers? Then take the initiative. Go on a boat trip, visit a museum or the countryside… the location doesn't matter, the key is to regularly escape the daily grind and rediscover relaxation and romance. Rekindling a relationship often comes from these small surprises and daydreams.
3. Awaken the senses
Does the phrase "marital obligations" not excite you? That's great! While parenting is exhausting and time-consuming, this period is actually a wonderful time to explore new territories of intimacy. You are happy new parents; you've rediscovered your confidence as a woman, and your baby is less dependent on you at night… Take advantage of this happiness to create surprises and awaken your senses! It doesn't have to wait until the weekend; a simple yet meaningful dinner is often the prelude to rekindling passion. Soft lighting can evoke desire, and an aromatherapy massage can stimulate tactile and olfactory pleasure. Every couple can find their own rhythm of intimacy.
4. Retain each other's independent space
Before your baby was born, did you each have your own sports, art activities, or friends to meet alone with? Don't give up these little escapes because of parenting. These moments alone not only help with emotional balance but also make you look forward to being together again. Of course, the key is to schedule the frequency and timing so that you both have the opportunity to leave the home and rediscover your dual roles as individuals and partners.
5. Redefining Family Rituals
You're certainly grateful for your parents' help and companionship, but there's no need to attend long Sunday family lunches every week, sacrificing the chance to sleep in together. Worried your parents will be unhappy? Don't forget they were young couples once too, and they'll definitely understand your needs, even if you only mention it lightly. Feeling really embarrassed? Then suggest changing it to a relaxed afternoon tea or pre-dinner gathering. The family is still together, but breaking the routine makes it more enjoyable for everyone!
