Whether you choose to be alone or with someone is up to you.
Whether planned or not, the day of childbirth is always filled with intense emotions, accompanied by immense joy, tender anticipation, and a natural touch of fear. Of course, you'll handle practical matters (whether to go to the delivery room alone, or with your father, friends, or family), but beyond that, your inner feelings should take precedence. As for whether someone accompanies you into the delivery room, don't succumb to any pressure or rules; it's entirely your decision. You can choose to be accompanied only by your medical team, or with one or more close friends or family members. However, please check the hospital's policy first, as some hospitals only allow one person to accompany you. Don't worry about traditional rules; you can even change your mind at the last minute and decide who accompanies you!
Most importantly, make yourself feel comfortable and safe.
From the first contractions to the birth of your baby, you will experience tremendous emotional fluctuations. Psychological stability is your best ally. The person accompanying you must be able to provide the best support, comfort, and even make you smile. Most importantly, this person must be someone you completely trust, someone you can freely express your emotions with, and someone with whom you can maintain perfect rapport to share these intimate moments.
Take time to discuss with the expectant father
For many expectant mothers, having their partner accompany them into the delivery room seems like a given. Many expectant fathers also want to participate in the process, to personally experience the magical moment of their baby's first cry. This is a deeply emotional and intimate moment for the couple. However, while this has become almost the norm, it must still be a choice made freely by both partners. Be open and honest; perhaps you wish to maintain a little mystery, which, while a symbol of love, is still related to the clinical procedure. Expectant fathers may feel uneasy in the hospital environment or worry that they are merely observers and unable to play a role in this important moment. Even if you have attended prenatal classes together, you should calmly discuss this before your due date. If both of you are certain you want to experience this moment together, it will strengthen your bond. If there are any doubts or hesitations, sharing them openly and finding the best approach will only deepen your love. Don't forget, expectant fathers can also choose to stay in the hallway outside the delivery room and occasionally enter to share their emotions.
Female companions, friends, or family...
If the expectant father is unable to be present or needs support, you can ask a trusted friend or family member to fill a specific role, making them feel useful rather than superfluous. Similarly, no one should be forced into this role, and you should not yield to anyone's advice (such as your mother-in-law or mother) if you feel they cannot provide adequate support. Furthermore, you have the absolute right to choose a doula. They are professionally trained to assist parents during pregnancy and provide psychological and physical support during childbirth, replacing the father or other caregivers to allow them to rest or establish communication between the delivery room and the outside world.
